RELEASE ABANDONMENT
WEEK 2 - PORTAL: THE WOUNDS
The card for this week is Release Abandonment. Before you start reading…take a moment to take in the image. Place your hands on your heart a for a moment…take a few breaths…good…now let’s begin…
Release Abandonment
“Abandonment isn’t just about who left — it’s about what we came to believe in their absence.” -Voge Smith
The Invitation
This card speaks directly to the tender ache of being left behind ….physically, emotionally, energetically. It is for the part of you that still stands at the edge of those metaphorical train tracks, clutching your version of a stuffed bear, watching love disappear into the distance.
Abandonment is a wound that often hides in plain sight. It can live in our nervous system as a constant hum of vigilance …waiting for the other shoe to drop. It can shape our relationships, where we either cling too tightly or push others away preemptively.
Maybe you were left literally. Maybe you were left emotionally …with needs too big for the adults around you to meet. Maybe love felt conditional, or vanished in moments you needed it most.
This card isn’t asking you to relive those moments. It’s inviting you to reclaim the part of you who lived through them …to become the steady presence that younger you longed for.
Healing abandonment doesn’t mean rewriting the past … it means restoring your relationship with the one who never left: you.
The Wound
The wound of abandonment forms when connection feels unreliable …when love disappears without explanation, consistency, or repair. Often this begins early, when caregivers were absent, overwhelmed, inconsistent, or emotionally unavailable, and the child was left to make sense of the rupture alone.
What settles in is not just grief, but meaning.
The quiet conclusion:
“Love leaves.”
“And when it does, it must be because of me.”
This wound trains the nervous system to stay alert …scanning for signs of departure, rejection, or withdrawal. In adulthood, it can shape how we attach: clinging to others for reassurance, collapsing our needs to avoid being left, or pushing people away before they have the chance to disappear. Some of us learn to leave first …emotionally, relationally, even physically … believing it’s safer to control the exit than to endure the loss.
Abandonment doesn’t only happen when someone walks away.
It also happens when no one comes.
When comfort doesn’t arrive.
When bids for connection go unanswered.
This card names the wound without blame. It recognizes that what you learned made sense at the time. And it gently asks a new question …not why they left, but what it cost you to keep waiting. Healing begins when the vigilance softens and the belief that love always leaves is no longer treated as truth.
Releasing Statements
• I release the fear that love always leaves.
• I release the imprint that I am easy to walk away from.
• I release the habit of abandoning myself to keep others close.
• I release the belief that I must chase love to be worthy of it.
Receiving Statements
• I receive the presence of my own unwavering heart — and let it fill every cell in my being.
• I receive the memory of moments I was met, held, and chosen.
• I receive the grace of becoming the one who never leaves me.
• I receive the truth that I am lovable even when no one else is watching.
Inquiry Questions
• When did I first learn that love could leave?
• How do I protect myself from that fear today?
• Where do I still wait to be chosen, rescued, or remembered?
• What part of me believes I must be perfect to keep love close?
• How do I abandon myself in an attempt to avoid being abandoned by others?
Closing Whisper
Inhale: … connection… Exhale: …disconnect.
With each breath, invite presence back into the places that once felt forgotten.
You are no longer standing at the edge of the tracks.
You are here.
And you are held.
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